For those facing infertility and undergoing treatments like donor egg IVF, the holidays can bring a whirlwind of emotions. From the joy of gathering with loved ones to the heightened anxiety of navigating inevitable questions about having kids, it’s no wonder this season can feel overwhelming. If you’re currently pursuing IVF with donor eggs or donor embryos, we’ve put together a list of tips to help you enjoy the holidays — including ways to find joy while coping with infertility, processing genetic grief, and managing the donor egg IVF journey.

1. Emotionally Prepare and Set Boundaries

The holidays can amplify feelings of grief, jealousy, or isolation for those struggling with infertility.

It’s perfectly okay to prioritize your mental health during this time, even if it means declining certain holiday events or having tough conversations. Set clear boundaries with family and friends ahead of time if their questions or expectations are causing you stress. A simple, private conversation letting them know you’d prefer to avoid discussing family planning can go a long way.

2. Prepare Answers for Common Questions

Take time before gatherings to decide how you want to respond to comments or questions about starting or expanding your family. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, and a simple response can help you feel more in control.

Here are some options to consider:

• Politely deflect: “We’re not sure yet—how’s your holiday going?”
• Set limits: “I’d prefer not to discuss this right now.”
• Educate and raise awareness (if you feel comfortable): “Actually, 1 in 6 couples face infertility. It’s been a challenging journey, but we’re taking it one step at a time.”

Having these responses ready can help you avoid being caught off guard and ensure you only share what feels right.