5 Tips for Having Meaningful Conversations About Infertility Jun 06, 2024 | by Lucy Solie-Vilker, Program Director

June is World Infertility Awareness Month

Navigating conversations about infertility can be challenging, but we’re here to offer tips to transform potentially uncomfortable moments into meaningful interactions. 

5 Tips for Approaching Conversations About Infertility

Infertility is often a sensitive and deeply personal topic, and many prefer to keep their struggles private. Even if you’re one of those people, you can still help raise awareness and shed light on this important issue without revealing your own experiences. In honor of Infertility Awareness Month, we’re sharing five key tips on discussing infertility to educate others, break the stigma, and foster empathy and support.

1. Start with Simple Facts

When talking about infertility, it's helpful to start with straightforward, factual information. This can set the stage for a more comfortable and informed conversation.

  • Definition — Infertility is a Disease:
    • Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after one year of regular, unprotected intercourse. As emphasized by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, “Infertility is NOT an inconvenience; it is a disease of the reproductive system that impairs the body's ability to perform the basic function of reproduction."
  • Prevalence — Infertility is Common:
  • Causes — 30/30/30/10 Ratio:
    • Both men and women can experience infertility due to various factors such as hormonal imbalances, structural issues, genetic conditions, and age-related decline.
    • Medical professionals agree that 30% of infertility cases are due to female factors, 30% to male factors, 30% to a combination of both partners, and 10% are unexplained.

2. Acknowledge the Emotional Aspects of Infertility

Studies indicate that the psychological impact of infertility can be comparable to other serious medical conditions, such as cancer. Infertility is not just a medical issue; it's an emotional journey. Creating awareness about the emotional experience of infertility can help foster empathy and support.

Many infertile couples and individuals experience the following emotions:

  • Grief and Loss: Each failed attempt to conceive can feel like a significant loss, leading to a cycle of grief. It's not just about mourning the present but also the future that could have been.
  • Isolation: Many individuals feel isolated because infertility is often not openly discussed.
  • Stress and Anxiety: The uncertainty and pressure can lead to significant stress and anxiety.
  • Depression: Prolonged struggles to conceive can lead to feelings of hopelessness.


3. Use Relatable Analogies

Analogies can make the concept of infertility more relatable and easier to understand for those who haven’t experienced it firsthand.

  • Roller Coaster:
    • The emotional journey of infertility is like a roller coaster, with its ups and downs, moments of hope, and times of despair.
  • Train:
    • “Going through infertility is the equivalent of being trapped on a bus or subway car without knowing when your stop is coming up. You sit nicely on the packed bus with hundreds of other women. At each stop, more women get off. Sometimes new women get on, but even they seem to be getting off before you. You sit on this bus for years, constantly watching a string of other women getting off on the platform to Motherhood while you wait, and wait. Are you even on the right line? Eventually, you’re one of the last people left wondering, "Will it happen for me, too?"” - Elyse Ash, Rescripted.com

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4. Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries about what you’re comfortable discussing is perfectly acceptable. You don’t have to share everything.

  • Personal Comfort: Share only what you feel comfortable with. Remember, it’s your journey and your story.
  • Redirection: If a conversation becomes too intrusive, politely steer it towards a more general topic or gracefully end the discussion.

5. Offer Resources

Providing resources can help others better understand infertility and offer more effective support.

Practice Empathy and Compassion, Especially Toward Yourself

When talking about infertility, always approach the conversation with empathy and compassion, whether you're sharing your own story or listening to someone else's. And remember — it's equally important to be kind to yourself as you are to others!

  • Listen Actively: Sometimes, the best support you can offer is simply being present and listening without judgment.
  • Validate Feelings: Acknowledge and validate the emotions and experiences of others. 

Empowering Conversations During Infertility Awareness Month

World Infertility Awareness Month is a valuable opportunity to foster empathy, offer support, and break the stigma surrounding infertility. By sharing these tips and facts, we can help create a more understanding and supportive environment for everyone affected by infertility.

Remember, your voice matters. Every conversation can help spread awareness and compassion.

At Donor Nexus, we provide access to donor eggs and embryos to assist couples and individuals on their journey to parenthood. Our website and blog offer many resources for anyone considering this path. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out to our team!

June is World Infertility Awareness Month!

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